Saturday, December 25, 2010

QLC - A twenty something phenomena

I am 25 and counting. I am an MBA & an Engineer from ivy league institutes of India. I have several hundred friends (most of them are relatively as successful as I am tagged). Some of my friends even say that I have almost everything that someone may ever desire. This year became a turning point in my life. I joined the real world after almost two decades of a protected environment. Though I had tasted failures before, the real taste comes when there is no backup. Anyways I along with several hundreds of my friends am suffering from a common phenomena which was completely unknown some thirty years back. That phenomena is called QLC or Quarter Life Crisis. Maybe this is due to the fast paced life these days but almost everyone I know of my age is suffering from the symptoms of this disease. Recently a friend of mine sent me a mail describing the situation. I could absolutely relate to it. I thought why not share it with those who read my blog too. So here it goes. In case there is anyone who is not suffering from any of the symptoms please please contact me and do let me know how to tackle the situation. :P

BTW thank you RG for the mail.

BEING IN TWENTIES – Something I want to share…

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you. You may make friends in your job life that would ever cherish in your heart or you may think why for that short time I met him/her.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis...”

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